Disagreements are natural for any couple at a certain stage in the development of a relationship. In order for this stage to pass constructively and build the foundation for further harmonious life, it is important to learn to give in.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to listen. Owners of a hot-tempered character often complain about their inability to give in to a partner. In order not to turn any disagreement into a dispute and scandal, you need to show patience and prudence. Don't interrupt; After finishing your remark, let the interlocutor speak. Before you answer (and even more so, say harshness), take a deep breath and count to yourself to five. Typically, this pause is enough to keep you calm.
Step 2
Give in on the little things to win the main thing. Do not argue over nonsense, so as not to be considered a quarrelsome nature. Before insisting on anything, consider how important the subject of disagreement is to you. When it comes to a way of spending time, not very big purchases or communicating with someone from the environment, your partner is free to do as they see fit. But decisions that directly affect your life, too, are up for discussion. Don't make every decision final and unshakable. Psychologically, it is easier to agree on a certain period of time (for example, spend one weekend as you suggest, and the next one as suggested by the other half).
Step 3
Agree mutually. If you see a compromise in your partner, don't exploit that quality. As well as vice versa: meet the requirements of the second half, but as long as it does not break your personality. Couples in which concessions are made by only one side do not have a comfortable future for both.
Step 4
Respect the fundamentals of argumentation theory. Avoid generalizations: instead of the phrase "You never listen to me" say "It seems to me that you do not quite understand me right now." Do not speculate on your partner's previous mistakes, but do not hesitate to correctly remind you of your concessions in a similar situation.
Step 5
Don't be stubborn when you know you are wrong. Know how to admit your mistake, then in a fundamentally important situation you will have every chance to insist on your own. If you feel that the habit of "cursing" is becoming a style of your relationship, look for ways to let off steam in a different way: go in for extreme sports, preferably together.
